Roses,Dreams, and Diaphragms

I would have never thought that men also have problems somewhat similar to women. Things may have changed from the fifties till now. I only say that because I see men just willing to having sex with anybody at any time without any problem. I may be wrong but this is what I have heard and seen. In the fifties according to the reading “Roses, Dreams, and Diaphragms” the author stated that the fifties were mostly on romance and sophistication. The thing that caught me was that romance was so much bigger than sex. Wow something that people in this day and age don’t hear much of.

 “Romance was everywhere in New York, even if you couldn’t afford a nightclub cover charge.”

“At least some of our parents would have been reassured to know that much of our early New York life was heavy with romance and light on sex.”

As the story goes on, he explains his relationship and sexual experience with Emily, which did not go to well in the beginning of the reading. As I am reading it seems as though men were ready for a romantic life but didn’t know what to do when going all the way. This is a bit shocking because in society it seem as thou men are supposed to know what to do, but in this case they seem as clueless as the females in a previous reading “Sexual Puzzles” Because these men were not satisfied with their sexual behavior, in the reading it became a trend to go to a analyst or a psychiatrist to tell them their problems and dreams etc.

It seem like in the fifties sex was something that was all around the media and talked about by “jocks and cheerleaders etc”.But nobody really knew what to expect due to the lack of knowledge given to them. Many people actually had sex after college, but even waiting it seems as if they were still not ready. They could not perform as well as they would have wanted resulting to the therapist, hoping to fix their sexual problem. It is different how things were in the fifties, but this is what many had to deal with. It may be a bit weird now to hear because sex is such a popular thing now that anybody at even young ages is doing. I believe because now we are more educated about sex and sex is such an open topic that is discussed everywhere and at any age, and because of this many are in to it.

 Now because of this there are numerous pregnancies and abortions and etc, which in the fifties were look down upon. Women were doing illegal abortion which was harmful for them and many had fear of the law. Another thing that was looked down upon was the diaphragms which were given to females and they also were said to be “loose girls”. All in all after marriage was the time to have sex, and that was norm anything done before that as mentioned was looked down upon. This was in the 1950s, though things may have change somethings are the same.